We’ve had quite a few new babies arrive to our family and friends this last week, which we are so excited about, especially Noo who is going through a real baby phase, and is very annoyed that we’re not having any more! Four year old E, however, hasn’t been quite so enthused by all these babies. At breakfast the other morning she unexpectedly burst into tears, the gulpy uncontrollable sobs that are a big giveaway that something really isn’t right. We managed to discern that she was upset over not being a baby anymore! Poor little sausage. I think it’s finally hit her that for all the excitement of being a big girl and getting to go to school it also means a big change for her emotionally. She told us that she just missed the special days with mummy and all the cuddles. Well, of course I nearly burst into tears on hearing that!
I must admit I really do miss the time we had together, who knew you could miss soft play?! I think September was a big month of change for us, well for E and I especially, and now that the initial excitement has abated we’re now in the reality that this is our new week. One that’s full of homework and reading books, rushing around and working hard.
Last weekend the mister got unexpected tickets to Old Trafford so he whisked N off to Manchester for the day leaving E and I at home. After a little chat we decided to spend the day doing things we used to do before she started school.
We managed to squeeze in a trip to our local garden centre, where E was especially excited to see that they had started putting out their Christmas things! Imagine that scene in Elf where he shouts, Santa, and you get the idea.
She’s a girl after my own heart that one. She was rather disappointed that they hadn’t got the singing Santa’s out yet! After taking in all the Christmas decorations we rushed to a friend’s church where they were showing Home in a cinema style. Home is one of E’s absolute favourites so this was really well timed. After the film we were going to head home, but then I thought why not go to Lytham, it has E’s favourite park and we haven’t managed to get there much lately. So much to E’s glee we changed direction and drove in the sunshine to the park.
After we’d run ourselves ragged in the park we both decided that fish and chips were an absolute must. How E still had energy to run around afterwards, I do not know.
Driving home I couldn’t help feel happy that we’d managed to squeeze so much into our day. E is such a joy to spend time with and it really made me realise how much I’ve been missing her. Of course I am so happy with having more time in the week to spend on my business and this blog and I know that E is loving school, I think maybe I just need to make more of an effort with the time we do get together. Her little outburst over breakfast reminded me just how little she still is, and while she may not be a baby any more, she still needs that quality time. I remember doing it a lot with N when she started school. We had lots of issues with her behaviour at home (catch up by checking out the My Angry 5 Year Old series) and we found that ‘Love Bombing’ where you give the child the chance to spend time with you one on one and choose what to do, really helped so much.
I’m going to make the effort to give my girls that special one on one time, whether it’s watching Katie’s videos on Youtube with E, listening to N read or dancing round with Strictly on in the background, I don’t think it really matters, just as long as we have fun together.