5 things I do when I feel emotionally drained

5 things I do when I feel emotionally drained

I am naturally an introvert and can find spending a lot of time with people and socialising pretty draining. As much as I love a party or a long talk with friends there is only so much I can do before I feel the need to retreat. I find this can be the case when I’m feeling emotionally drained too. I love listening to people and helping friends work through problems but bizarrely I can find myself taking on their emotions or worries and carrying them with me afterward, I think this is just an aspect of my personality type. I know myself well enough now to recognise the signs that I need to take a step back and look after myself a little. This doesn’t just benefit me but tops me up again, so to speak, so that I can be me again, to be there for my children and my friends. If I don’t do anything and just keep going I am no fun to be around at all! I can be irritable, lack patience and definitely lack compassion, it’s like I shut down, this doesn’t make for a good friend, mum or general human being!

Here are some ways I’ve found that help me when I’m feeling emotionally drained.

 

   1. Have a hot bubbly bath

There is something so magical about easing yourself into a hot bubbly bath. Being a mum it can be hard to find any sacred space that’s just for me. I’ve learnt that hard way to wait until I’m one hundred percent certain that both my girls are asleep before even attempting to run a bath. I’ll never forget getting into an eagerly anticipated bath only to be joined in the bathroom by my very chatty six year old wanting to read to me while she sat on the loo. Not ideal. 

   2. Lock myself away with Netflix

Grabbing some time to just switch off and binge watch something is so relaxing to me, obviously it doesn’t need to be Netflix, any provider of binge watch fodder will do! To immerse myself in another story or world and taking that time to check out is so special. Even if it’s just a snatched thirty minutes while the girls are playing. I need to be careful with this though and make sure if I’m watching for a recharge then it shouldn’t be a series that’s particularly tense or with an emotional storyline, a fun comedy like Kimmy Schmidt or Odd Mom Out usually does the trick.

   3. Read a book

This is where an absorbing fiction book is just perfect. Curling up on my comfy chair in the living room and getting lost in another story gives me that time out I so often need. I usually reach for one of my comforting favourites when I’m feeling drained. There’s something so easy about dipping back into a well worn book and familiar characters. A new book can be more difficult to concentrate on when I’m feeling overwhelmed or down and I definitely would struggle to process a non-fiction read.

   4. Switch off

This is done at varying degrees, depending on need and of course circumstance. Taking that step back, whether it’s ignoring calls and turning off notifications, or just turning off your phone for a set amount of time. As I’ve got older I’ve learnt that setting boundaries is so important and ties in well with this. As terrible as it sounds sometimes we need to ignore that call if we’re not emotionally able to cope with it. Instead just send a little text saying you’ll call back and then speak to them when you’ve topped up a little. When I’m feeling drained I struggle to even engage on social media and places like Instagram make me feel down and inadequate rather than a place to share creativity and share in people’s lives. Sometimes I’ll take a social media break for a few days (and try not to worry about lack of engagement or losing followers!!) as I know that when I come back to it I’ll be refreshed and ready. 

   5. Have a time of prayer and mindfulness 

This may sound airy fairy but taking the time to centre myself when I’m overwhelmed is often the most necessary and important thing. This can be lying down and with calming music, listening to a thoughtful podcast, praying or just sitting in silence. I find that when I’ve given myself this kind of space I feel so much better for it, though often it can be the last thing I feel like doing! Looking after myself spiritually is just as important as taking care of physically needs, in fact it’s all connected really.

 

Can you relate?

What do you do when you’re feeling emotionally drained?

 

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21 Comments

  1. Sophie @ wifemotherlife
    September 20, 2017 / 4:12 pm

    I completely relate to this Morgana! I am very much an introvert who needs down time to reset and recharge. Number 5 is probably the one I use the most, but could probably do with diversifying sometimes. X

    • morgana
      Author
      September 21, 2017 / 9:29 am

      It’s so nice to find someone that understands! Most of my friends are extroverts and just don’t get it at all. I think number 5 is my most effective one for sure. x

      • September 21, 2017 / 9:22 pm

        Same here, my friends are all extroverts and just don’t understand why I’ve reach over exposure point. Even the kids don’t understand that Mummy can only cope with being touched so much in a day. So hard to explain to people. And yes prayer in particular is so powerful, as is just being absolutely silent in solitude haha xx

  2. September 20, 2017 / 10:15 pm

    I can completely relate Morgana. So well put I agree with everything you’ve got here. An early night with a candle/incense lit and a magazine/book and some meditation before I sleep has been working best for me and yes I have switched off from Instagram quite a lot recently too! x

    • morgana
      Author
      September 21, 2017 / 9:27 am

      Thanks Gemma, as I’ve got older I’ve found I need it more and more. I’m learning not to feel guilty about it but seeing it as necessary instead x

  3. September 21, 2017 / 12:43 pm

    I know exactly how you feel! I’m an introvert and quite often find that I need to be alone and have a nice bath or read a book!

    • morgana
      Author
      September 26, 2017 / 9:45 am

      One of my absolute favourite things to do! x

  4. September 21, 2017 / 8:19 pm

    I am a big introvert and if I don’t get time to recharge I find myself getting really overwhelmed – with my workload, my to-do list of errands, and my girls. I either need time on my own in silence (while the girls are at school and I’m home on my own working is ideal) or I have to go for a walk in the fresh air out in nature. Like you said, I think the key is recognising it and catching it in advance rather than letting it get too far and then having to recover. Looking after our emotional and mental wellbeing is just as important as looking after our physical health for sure.

    • morgana
      Author
      September 26, 2017 / 9:47 am

      I completely agree. It’s so important to be mindful of out emotional and mental wellbeing, to recognise the signs when we need to take a step back and recharge xx

  5. September 22, 2017 / 7:25 am

    Great post, I can completely relate to this. I think it’s hard when you have children to get 20 minutes to yourself but it does you the world of good and I always feel better for it.

    • morgana
      Author
      September 26, 2017 / 9:48 am

      You’re so right. When my girls were tiny I found it such a struggle and would get really overwhelmed. It’s definitely easy to get a little space now that they are older. x

  6. September 22, 2017 / 2:29 pm

    Yep — this is totally me. People always say I’m outgoing and extrovert but to be honest, it’s mostly bravado. If I’m at a social event and people aren’t talking — or there’s awkward silences — I’d rather keep talking to fill the gaps!!!! As a result I’m always exhausted afterwards. Being by myself for a little while is necessary — I definitely need a bit of time alone to recharge my batteries.

    • morgana
      Author
      September 26, 2017 / 9:50 am

      It’s amazing how much it can take out of you isn’t it? I find conferences a huge struggle as you need to be sociable and ready with small talk the whole time! x

  7. September 25, 2017 / 1:22 pm

    Fab tips to relax yourself hunny we we need it most. Sometimes it’s hard to pull ourselves out of it I always have a little routine I do too to give me a good recharge. Love these. #wrc

    • morgana
      Author
      September 26, 2017 / 9:51 am

      Thanks Jenny. I think we all need to recharge whatever personality type we are and whatever things drain us. x

  8. September 25, 2017 / 8:54 pm

    Ah I love a bubble bath and Netflix, actually a bubble bath with Netflix sounds like perfection!! Can you imagine? Just bliss! x

    • morgana
      Author
      September 26, 2017 / 9:51 am

      Utter bliss! xx

  9. September 26, 2017 / 8:02 am

    Yup. Totally get it. Book for me and switch off.

  10. morgana
    Author
    September 26, 2017 / 9:53 am

    I love reading and find it so relaxing, I really must make more time for it in my week x

  11. September 26, 2017 / 4:20 pm

    Yes to all of this Morgana, like you I love to help but often find myself becoming so overwhelmed with worry. I tend to retreat and take some time out, a bath is definitely up there for me as is sitting on my bed in a quiet room. Mr H used to think I was crazy now he leaves me and sometimes just lies next to me. Another way of finding my way back is reading George a story at bedtime and falling asleep with him. Love to you and hope you aren’t letting things get on top of you and this photo of you is truly gorgeous x

  12. Ellie
    September 27, 2017 / 12:19 am

    I absolutely relate to this – although I’m really not very good at setting aside the time to do the things that recharge me; it feels selfish, especially when it means handing the baby to someone else JUST so I can have a bath or play the piano.
    I remember hearing a great message from Wayne Cordero called something like ‘Dead Man Running’ where he talks about hitting burnout and learning to schedule in the things that fill him up before scheduling the things that drain him. It makes so much sense because it ensures you maintain enough energy to tackle the other things, but I’m still not good at doing it!

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