You’d think that now we’ve all got boobs, ditched Mizz magazine and moved on from gossiping about who snogged who at the disco that we’d have all grown mature enough not to be mean girls anymore.
I did my fair share of bitching and back stabbing as a teen, something I’m not proud of. But do you know what, then I grew up. Now I’m a mum I thought the days of dealing with mean girls were long gone, yes, I know, how naive of me.
Unfortunately it seems to be something of an under current that plagues the blogging community. I have lost track of the number of incidents there’s been, particularly in the parent blogging community. And let me point out that I wasn’t even aware of half of what was going on when I was a ‘mummy blogger’, ignorance is bliss and all that.
From ‘Just being honest’ or ‘telling it like it is’ to bitchy comments behind people’s backs in Facebook groups and Whatsapp, I don’t know about you but I feel it’s just so unnecessary. Do we really have so little going on in our lives that we need to resort to name calling people, people that we’ve probably never even met!
This kind of mean girl attitude just undermines everything that feminism is trying to achieve. We are shooting our selves in the foot when we back bite and tear each other down.
When it comes to dealing with Mean Girls these are the things I try to do and it’s what I’ll be sharing with my two daughters.
How to deal with Mean Girls
- Block and move on! Sounds easy enough but it can be hard to do as we all know. I find that confiding in friends often gives me the kick I need to hold my head up, block and move on.
- Duck the drama – don’t get sucked into taking sides and digging dirt no matter how honourable you think you’re intentions are. Sure stick up for your friend or speak out when you see injustice but be so careful not to get dragged down to the levels of what you’re trying to come against.
- Focus on the positive
- Build each other up
- When I come across negativity or mean girl attitudes I try and do something positive and helpful for someone else, it sounds silly but if we all took the time to help each other out eventually the mean girl behaviour would be drowned out with sisterhood!!
- In the spirit of this after you’ve finished this post think of a friend and give them some encouragement – not a fake, sugar sweet compliment for the sake of it but something meaningful. Liked a post someone wrote – tell them! Found a tip helpful – tell them! Feel inspired by someone’s attitude? Tell them! Felt encouraged or helped practically by someone – tell them! Know a friend that’s going through a tough time – support them! Tweet them, tag them on Facebook or Instagram, send a text. Give them a hug and tell them face to face. However you want just do it, go on I dare you 😉
Let’s block out the mean girls and be grown up women that support each other not tear each other down.
Morgana is a social media coach for small businesses and entrepreneurs, specialising in Instagram and Pinterest. Based in the North West of the UK, where she lives with her husband and two daughters. She particularly enjoys a Netflix binge watch and cannot function without black coffee and dark chocolate digestives.