You know that phrase, New Year, New Me?
Yeah. I’m not really a fan of that kind of sentiment.
It’s rather crazy to think that we’ll wake up changed or that somehow everything we haven’t managed in the last 30 odd years we will miraculously do, or even be, next year.
This New Year craziness includes physical self improvement like dieting. Aiming to get into that pair of pre-child birth jeans that have been hanging in the wardrobe for years and stare at you disapprovingly every time you open the closet doors. I’m not saying that getting back in those jeans won’t ever happen and who knows what can be achieved if you are motivated (I’m not). All I know is that giving away that pair of jeans was the best thing I ever did. Moving more and getting out of Christmas mode, ie eating Christmas cake for breakfast is the kind of New Year aim I’m going for.
When it comes to life, both personally and professionally, sure set goals, make healthy changes, and set boundaries but don’t heap pressure on yourself, or set unattainable, unrealistic and unmeasurable goals. There is no worse feeling than constantly being smacked in the face by perceived failure. I say perceived as when we set aims and goals that are unrealistic we are always going ‘fail’ and not take into account all the work and changes we’ve made to try and reach them.
Set small targets first and be sure to celebrate those small wins.
Far too often we forget the steps we’ve taken and the positive changes we’ve made when faced with the ‘big picture’.
I’ve fallen foul to this too many times, and it’s taken a loved one to carefully point out the things I have achieved or the kind of person I’ve become.
A new year is the perfect time to look how far you’ve already come, whether that’s professionally of personally. Start the year positively. Don’t just look at how you can change yourself or improve.
And remember, YOU are enough.
(Featured photo by Tessa Rampersad)